Building on a Solid Foundation: Why Weak Connections Always Collapse

If you build anything on a bad, rotten base — it will eventually collapse. It applies to everything: friendship, relationship, business, family, career, even travel plans.
Let’s take friendship as an example.

Imagine you’re desperate to find a friend. Then you meet someone and decide to make them your friend — even though something feels off. You ignore that unpleasant feeling. You overlook the way they occasionally treat you, the subtle contempt, the little jabs about your looks, the coldness, the quiet disrespect.

But you two still hang out. Maybe because they have no one else either at the moment.
And then one day, it ends. You’re heartbroken. Disappointed. You chose this out of fear — fear of being alone, or whatever else was running under the surface. And honestly, it was always going to collapse.

The bigger you built on that base, the more painful the collapse.

That’s when it really hits. That deep hurt.

Because you’re not just grieving the collapse itself — you’re mourning the years, the effort, the emotional energy. You’re grieving the version of you who truly believed it could work.
Every “building” you put up on a shaky foundation will collapse like that. And the grief that follows… it’s enormous.

So work on your base. Make it solid.

Work with a coach if you need to. Get help. Dive into your unconscious mind and clear the bugs that led you to build on a shaky ground in the first place.

Build better. From the roots.